One new understanding that has emerged in recent years is that children experience and suffer from developmental trauma. Seems obvious but for years adults were not aware of how much children absorb from their environment.

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Larry Heller evolved a way of working that supports the individual to stay grounded in their adult awareness while a younger sense of self that feels injured by primary  relationships and experiences,  tries to negotiate the world of adults.

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Whether we learnt to people please to keep the peace, be defensive or withdraw and go silent, most people coming to therapy know what it is to suddenly not feel like a competent adult. This can have led to a life time pattern of isolating to feel safe. Trust in relationships may be fragile.

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NARM aims to offer a space, in relationship, where the more fragile parts of yourself can emerge and check is it safe to relate. Is it possible that another will not judge you as harshly as you were judged or as you now judge yourself?  

 

More importantly, if there is a rupture in the relationship that the other will take the time needed to repair any misunderstanding.

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