At birth the only defense that we are born with as a human being is our voice and our capacity to call out for help. Our vocal system is inherent to our survival.  This  fragile sense of safety requires the presence of attentive carers.  It is essential that the baby is confident that it's call will be heard and responded to.

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An  important part of mother and child bonding and the developing relationship is  the use of vocalization. The mother's voice stimulates the babies auditory system from 16 weeks in utero and is a reminder of the safety of the womb experience where the baby first heard the Mother's voice from about 16-24 weeks.

With a Mothers / carers encouragement the baby starts to mimic the sounds it hears and this strengthens the vocal system and in turn the respiratory system.  

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This is the basis of trust in human relationships. That you will be there for me when I need you.

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When our needs haven't been seen or heard they can't be met and we can learn to believe they are not important  - that we are not important. We learn to not ask for help.

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To prevent this occurring in the first place it is important that a Mother values her voice and in turn has the capacity to listen for her babies cry and respond. The demands and expectations of Mothers has increased over the years and the supports have decreased.  Her voice is unique in helping her to ;-

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- Regulate herself

- Begin the bonding process with her baby while still in the womb

- Bond with her Baby and regulate her Baby

- Communicate her needs to her support system of partner, family and friends

- Set boundaries with the outside world to protect herself and her Baby

- Slow the medical procedures to a pace that is right for her and her Baby

- Over  time be the voice for her child in the world until her child has developed this capacity

- Be the voice of a mother who knows her child's needs and influence the systems that are meant

  to support her and her child.

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